Venerable Ru Jun describes this situation with parents:
- how parents quite commonly feel that the kids do not appreciate their good intentions
- how the kids seemingly don’t show gratitude to the parents
Advice from this discourse:
善心是我們幸福的依靠；不是對方給你多少理解、給你多少安慰。你自己的善意才是幸福的依靠，也是幸福的起點。
一、自己的善意才是幸福的依靠。
別人對我的理解與安慰，還是來自當初我對別人的理解與安慰。
二、因此得到幸福反而比較容易。因為求諸己而非求諸人，幸福操之在我。
My contemplation:
- As parents, we should look at our intentions. Is the purpose of our actions just to get gratitude and appreciation from our kids?
- Will it be more liberating to know that our intentions is more to help and care for our kids?
- This genuine intention to help then becomes the source of our happiness.